I was recently told by a friend that because I put this in my profile"I see myself as a philosopher and a worker", I am a proud guy. Haha, this incident tells me I need to be more accurate in my expression. What i meant was I feel I am a hardworking person who like to study philosophy of life. I don't think I am a proud person and don't want to be seen as one. so i just rephrased the sentence in my profile and problem solved! This blog is set up for me to share my experience and feelings with friends and strangers, not to show people my body.that's why i deleted the photos too(people can still email me for the photos!). I don't think I'm wrong to put the photos there or use expressions loosely in my profile, afterall, this is my blog! It's not like i'm accusing people or put porn photos in my blog. Just that I'm worried i will turn away people who may want to share my experiences and encounters.
Now back to the topic ,proud man. I want to talk about this since my friend brought it up to me a few days ago. There are positive and negative meanings to this word. I don't think a person will mind if other people use the word in a positive way. So when will people tell you you are proud? as in egoistic, arrogant? I think when a person gets over-confident or when he is looking down on someone, he is a proud person. There is simply no reason for anyone to be over-confident or to look down on anyone. I use "proud man", but not "proud girl" cos i feel there are many more proud men than proud ladies in Singapore. Why? i think men are taught a culture that they are more impt than ladies as men carry more responsibility in family(money wise), working or politics. They also observe their parents, and what's happening around them. In a family, children and mother usually look to the father when they encounter problems. Another reason is gene, somehow there seems to be an ego trait in most of the men since they are born. Somehow even for non-physical competitions like sch exam, guys feel ok to lose to a guy, but not a gal. They may not always feel they are smarter than girls, but the masculine mentality will give them a strong desire to win gals. However, these two factors are by no means excuses for men to be proud. I think they still can control their arrogance by understanding life better, put in more thinking to what's happening in their surrounding and they need to observe the reactions from their family, friends or even strangers more. Usually those reactions are good mirrors for you to see whether you have acted correctly or not. Just take it as an advice, it does not matter if you don't understand at first. Soon or later, you will know whether that action is correct or not. Many people say you need not care so much about how other people think of you. However, life will be much easier if you are aware of other people's impression on yrself especially when you are working or doing a task which requires cooperation from others. This is good to improve yr relationship with other people too.